Ganhar dinheiro Internet HTTP://WWW.SITESBARATOSRJ.COM.BR
by daniel3231
"Ja pensou saber Como Ganhar Dinheiro na Internet trabalhando em casa com Vendas Online " "Veja como ter uma Renda Extra e ganhar dinheiro todos os dias na Internet " Qual pessoa hoje em dia n?o quer aprender Como ganhar dinheiro na Internet? se disser todo Mundo acertou mais saiba que para conseguir obter lucros diários na Internet é preciso esfor?o,dedica??o e investimento.Ganhar dinheiro na Internet soa bem em qualquer lugar e na Internet n?o seria diferente pois o sonho de muitos jovens e pessoas comuns como você também querem muito isso.
Ganhar Dinheiro na Internet
by lsfx20
Revelado o segredo de ganhar dinheiro: Conheça o sistema que gera dinheiro todos os dias da semana, 24 horas por dia. Já imagionou acordar, abrir seu e-mail verificar a primeira mensagem e descobrir que ganhou R$ 32,90, ao abrir a segunda mensagem, você descobre que já ganhou mais R$ 74,90.
Descubra como ganhar dinheiro na internet usando o computador como ferramenta de trabalho.
A esta altura você pode estar pensando, "será que eu vou realmente ganhar dinheiro?"
A menos que você faça algo de maneira diferente, você apenas continuará obtendo os mesmos resultados de sempre. Dê uma chance a si mesmo, faça algo diferente e mude definitivamente sua vida, para melhor.
Ganhar Dinheiro na Internet
by lsfx20
Revelado o segredo de como ganhar dinheiro na internet: Conheça o sistema que gera dinheiro todos os dias da semana, 24 horas por dia. Já imagionou acordar, abrir seu e-mail verificar a primeira mensagem e descobrir que ganhou R$ 32,90, ao abrir a segunda mensagem, você descobre que já ganhou mais R$ 74,90.
Descubra como ganhar dinheiro na internet usando o computador como ferramenta de trabalho.
A esta altura você pode estar pensando, "será que eu vou realmente ganhar dinheiro?"
A menos que você faça algo de maneira diferente, você apenas continuará obtendo os mesmos resultados de sempre. Dê uma chance a si mesmo, faça algo diferente e mude definitivamente sua vida, para melhor.
Floor Tiles or Floor Porcelain Tiles
by pocuswhack
We use different types of tiles in our house to decorate it. A huge variety of materials are used to manufacture them these materials are including the clay, ceramics, granite, polyester, fabric, glass, Porcelain, marble and stone. Different types of tiles are used in our homes and each tile is named after the material make it. All these tile like Floor Tiles, Porcelain and Vitrified Tile is available in the market in a few colors, sizes and shapes.
Floor Tiles are a popular choice for kitchens & come in plenty of forms, colors & style; they are ideal for the kitchen because they are amazingly long lasting & strong & are ideal for busy areas. Floor tiles are also used in Bathrooms & again make ideal tiles one time they are sealed & treated.
Ceramic & Porcelain Tile is also popular Floor Tiles because they are also strong & long lasting & brilliantly simple to maintain & tidy. Floor Tiles are also great for areas where there is moisture because their absorption level is low, this makes them ideal for bathrooms. Porcelain Tiles are also hygienic, much like ceramic tile they do not absorb moisture basically keeping them hygienic & making them simple to tidy.
Other tremendous floor Tiles options include Porcelain Tile and quarry tiles which also make great additions to busy areas. Vitrified Tiles are not often used in bathrooms but are amazingly popular in kitchens as home owners revert back to the nice elderly country cottage feel. Vitrified Tiles are great for both inside and outside because they are amazingly long lasting and strong. Vitrified Tile in kitchens areas are always better sealed to protect the tile material and four times sealed will maintain their appearance for plenty of years.
Porcelain Tile are also now gaining popularity as Floor Tiles & the advantages of Porcelain Tile are countless, they are slip resistant, heat resistant & because they are usually a darker tile, they hide any marks well. Porcelain Tile is also simple to maintain & come in some earthy shades. Slate tile shades of color vary & this can add a distinctive & individual style to any home.
Choosing Floor Tiles will largely depend on your preferences & your individual style & the existing decor that you have. Taking your time & thinking about all the choices is the key when choosing Floor Tiles.
End of Life
by sadhana
Reading this article made me think of all the possible arguments for and against the assisted prolonging of one's life. While we wonder how much the burden for caring for the author's father fell on her mother as it appears the author's siblings showed up when their father was pronounced dead, a combination of factors could help in coordinating less painful final years for our parents and loved ones. It is easy to blame the 'system' and finger point at doctors but the issues are often far more complicated.
Last week, my 84 year old mother-in-law was admitted overnight to the hospital following complaints of feeling 'pressure in her chest' which turned out to be nothing. She felt sheepish after all the tests were performed that she'd caused a todo over nothing. We were relieved she had the presence of mind to decide she was feeling out of sorts and call for help. She is a widow who lives alone since her husband died. She chooses to live in the same apartment she enjoyed with her husband for several years and she cannot think of moving and 'leaving' him there. My husband's sister, whose husband is a doctor, has power of attorney for her mother. Thankfully, given how healthy their mother has been, my husband and his sister have been able to care for her on an as needed basis up until now.
My mother-in-law's mental faculties are as sharp as a twenty year old's and we often joke about feeling inept before her when she recalls names of composers better than we can when we listen to music together and gives us minute details of Grace Kelly's life or recounts anecdotes from her subway rides in New York City from 'back then.' She's had the good fortune of being a healthy, intelligent and cogent human being. Having a devoted daughter, an informed son-in-law who is a pediatrician and a loving son and a coordinated team of doctors ensure there are no slipups. The whole family is realistic about end-of-life issues and is fairly clear about what to do in the 'event'..
What is also important to understand is that doctors do what is best in the 'current' situation of a patient's life. They do try and encompass a patient's care into the comprehensive network of care and cure. They work within the constraints of their medical directives, just as we work within the confines of our resources and capabilities. It is unfair to finger point at doctors as if they don't have elders of their own to care for. They shouldn't have to bear the burden of crucial decisions outside of the medical realm of their patients' lives. If we've ever worked we know we have to 'leave' our other jobs to care for our home affairs, doctors are under that same obligation also. They try very hard like most people to do the right thing. Yes, it can be argued that vested interests of manufacturers of pacemakers, etc. work their way into the system and preempt what a doctor would do with information overload given to them and pick the best option available to them.
It's like producing a movie or a play, all the players need to have some understanding of what each one's roles have to be to pull off the production at the end of the day. The stage manager, the actors, etc.... In this sequence of events, the family members are the key contributors, the actors, who hold forth under the directive of the doctor.. in the end the quality of end of life is a sum of well coordinated parts; the individual, his or her spouse and family, their personal situations, the doctor, perhaps in that order.
Should we choose to become extinct?
by sadhana
Reading this article in the New York Times and the subsequent blog posts reiterated to me what I often feel to be true, the bloggers are so often far more informed than the authors of the article. That said, I have two daughters and like most doting parents who love their children, love them with every fibre of my being. While having children is a mostly selfish act since it obviously does not take into consideration a child's opinion about whether he/she wants to be born, it is an enriching process. If we choose to adopt also, we live the experience of parenting that is so integral to our overall development as people, it builds tolerance levels and keeps us from being less selfish, at least for the majority of us.
Denying ourselves the privilege, joy, travails and the overall maturation process of having a child should be viewed against the context of the fact that the earth is destined to burn itself out in 50,000 years or so regardless of any feeble attempts we make to 'prevent' or delay it. In the meanwhile, child bearing and raising is part of the cycle of life as we know it on earth. We've evolved and adapted for aeons, our children will evolve and adapt after they've left the comforts of home and gone on to being citizens of the world, what we all work with is the understanding that we have little control over the really big picture and having a couple of children and raising them responsibly to be contributing members of society is no crime and certainly not having them does not alleviate any of the ills that plague us. Yes, many argue that fewer people will preserve the earth and there should be a balance of resources, we should work to contain population, perhaps the next fifty or one hundred years will be a tipping point of sorts and then people will scale back from having eight and ten kids to a family even in the most impoverished societies.
Future generations will learn to cope with the news of a dying planet and will make their own maneouvers to manipulate an eventuality or adapt, why should we deprive them the right to partake of that process? While we recognize that over population is drastic and should be stemmed, deciding not to have any children at all does not necessarily offer a fix to the problem. Who knows, we may have raised a child who will contribute to alleviating some of the suffering that does exist and even if that doesn't happen, we've raised them hopefully to be thinking, responsible people who will go on to raise thinking, responsible people.
Brains Behaving Well
by sadhana
As we scurry around with the business of living, it seems like suddenly, life has just gone on and on and that impossibly old age is suddenly ours. When we stop to understand the implications of an older and fears of a more fragile or limited brain, we find reassurance in reading Barbara Strauch's book on an organ that is much like any other in our bodies, responds well to exercise, care and stimulation. The brevity of this article offers a snapshot and I guess, if we are compelled, we can even read the rest of the book to help ourselves and those we know in our lives, grappling with the maturation process called getting older.
Auletta Explains All
by sadhana
You have to hand it to the New Yorker, despite the mulitiple rejections I've received from them, most I like to believe, of works they've never had the bandwidth to read, you have to hand it to them to produce an article of such consummate detail, as to clear the fog that hung over our heads as it relates to eBooks, the iPad and the Kindle. Although I was never an eReader in that sense, I never have been able to sit at a computer and read a novel, I have of course, transitioned all newspaper reading to reading on the web, because it enables me to go through six or seven newspapers I like to read on a regular basis in about half the time and no clean up to do once I'm done reading; absolutely unbeatable. Maybe, I am coming to that with eBooks as well, I look at the stack of books sitting on my night stand and I know Steve Jobs is right, I probably read a total of no more than four books all of last year. Me! That person who read instead of eating? Who considered reading synoymous with breathing?! I read just four books all of last year, a down year? When I didn't produce as much writing nor did I work a nine to five job? Well, it appears all of our reading habits are at an inflection point that will hit the whole industry with seismic jolts. Actually that jolt occured with Amazon several years ago in their scramble to be the 'Earth's largest bookstore.' After reading through several reports in the papers, Walt Mossberg's one-sided/teenage-like gushing review of the iPad (well, we've concluded he's likely on Jobs' payroll) so nothing he ever said rang true. BUT, here's an article from Ken Auletta, the guy who had this big book on Google out last year. Ken's done a meticulous job of educating us on tenets of this new, what shall we call it, 'vertical' that's taken over the publishing industry and turned it on its head. At the end of the day I just wonder do we blame or thank Amazon? We can blame them for lowering prices to such an extent that they created paupers of writers/publishers and all the people in between and we can thank them for basically giving Steve Jobs something to chew on, so he went off and comandeered something like the iPad, that could thumb its nose at the Kindle.. so the playing field gets leveled; the winners, despite the higher prices, are, in that convoluted way that everything works these days; the consumers.. And that's probably not such a bad thing.
Stand and Burn
by sadhana
Trying to fathom the trick to weight loss for many is as perplexing as what diets to consider in order to attain weight loss. While this article avers that weight loss occurs with a combination of eating less and being more physically active, it is interesting to note that toward the end of the article they talk of the number of calories that are potentially burned when people simply stand and are not sedentary. The data collection details explain some intuitive facts however, yes, it is easier for less obese people to lose weight than for heavier people, but it's again that same viscious circle; people interested in seriously losing weight are those who already have a leaner frame going for them. A friend of mine who was considered traditionally obese and came from a family that seemed to be weighed down by obesity issues historically on both her parents' side decided to experiment on herself and succeeded in losing over 65 pounds in less than eight months and she kept it off. Perhaps for her it was easier because she was just twenty four years old when she started this, she drastically reduced her food intake. Her diet comprised of carrots, celery, sprouts, boiled eggs with one piece of toast either in the morning or the evening, she never ate after 7pm. She also signed up at a local gym and exercised for about an hour a day, nothing rigorous but definitely consistent. She lost close to eleven pounds the first month and steadily kept it up for the next 8 months. It's been four years now and she has not gained that weight back, she used rigorous discipline to keep her weight in check. In these past four years, she also gave birth to a healthy baby boy, keeping her weight in check throughout her pregnancy. Now, more than two years since giving birth, she went back to that same slim state of maintaining the 105 pounds she was before she became pregnant. She's thinking of having another child and has no qualms of gaining weight again, "it's all in the mind" she said, "from my experience, I can tell, it's totally doable."
To Wed or Not to Wed
by sadhana
While this topic always offers occasion for lively debate, marriage and partnership examined against the backdrop of relationships between two people who feel fairly equal to each other can perhaps tilt the argument in favor of unions. As we progress on the biological and social evolutionary scale, it is only natural that the definition of marriage will evolve to adapt to new socio-economic realities. The quote Tara Parker-Pope applies to end her essay with advocates very simply that using situations of marital discord to build and grow from instead of the opposite is the best way to gain effective upside to a potential problem. However, that is easier said than done, those of us who have been in any relationship know that despite some very good intentions many relationships result in unintended consequences. Reading articles like this affords us insights gained through interesting data and in the process enhances our perspectives on an important aspect of our lives.
Rules of Thumb: Retention
by sadhana
When it comes to keeping copies of bills, etc. my husband and I are more or less on the same plane, or were more or less on the same plane. We believed we could keep many files safely in electronic format, scanned and filed, until, that is, our home was burglarized recently and every laptop was stolen including all heirloom jewels and other valuables that I will not recover in my lifetime. However, the most difficult aspect has been dealing with lost tax filings. Recklessly, as it appears now, we never made copies on to that reliable thumb drive and therefore lost our most recent returns making it extremely hard to file our taxes this year. Dealing with the insurance company's ambiguous language has become an art in and of itself, they require receipts for all items reported stolen but will reserve the right to arbitrarily cap limits on reimbursement. While we've experienced this merry-go-round with them, we realized again the value of keeping simple, hard copies of important documents for a few years at least, just for the sake of our own sanity. This article offers some guidelines that I wish I'd read and heeded to some months ago.
The Upside of Rejection Letters
by sadhana
Human nature craves acceptance, it would be hard not to feel crushed at rejection. Despite all the brave, sincere and heartfelt attempts students make in their lives, it is clear that when the thin envelope of rejection arrives, it is a heart breaking experience. I am just as anxious and pushy as the next mom when it comes to my children's education. I expect to be peeved and deeply let down if my daughter is rejected by her preferred schools. Reading this article in the Journal was not just reassuring but eye-opening all over again. Although I was the one who went around singing the mantra throughout my daughters' high school years, 'it is not where you go to school that is important, it is what you do with what you learn anywhere that counts'. My children humored me all these years patiently hearing my dictums out. Now it's my turn to remind myself that all of those dictums are actually true, that my daughter cannot be measured by someone else's acceptance or rejection. Plus, I've always maintained that I have two awesome children, one who makes me a better person each day and the other who makes me a happier person each day, an acceptance or rejection letter is not going to change any of that.
When Celebrities are Cottage Industries
by sadhana
With Woods's announcement of a return to golf, expectations start to be reset and the media has an avatar of sorts to deal with; the reincarnation of a hero; that is accounting for the fact that Tiger will play out some sort of remorse that can be publicly showcased and leveraged by the 'Tiger Ecosystem'. The ethics of whether one person's ability to impact so many, so widely is not something I have credentials to discuss. I never thought he should have been castigated for his marital issues like he was. Such problems are bad enough being handled between husband and wife, the penance for those sins are paid by everyone in the family. In my opinion the media loves its heroes and lives by its villains, either way, it's the only means of survival it has taught itself.
The tenets of journalism since the days of Nellie Bly have changed remarkably. For some of us really curious about the news, we read a cross-section of papers, read blogger comments, which are often better written and more insightful than the articles they are commenting on and develop our own sense for what may or may not be happening in the world today. Tiger's stories, along with those of Britney Spears and others perhaps allow for a diversion for the millions of people who live lives tethered to work and the issues of living, they need an escape. One wonders how anyone can be interested in daytime soaps, but they do still run, that's the same interest that sustains and feeds the ongoing need to feed. This article, appraising the Tiger phenomenon, just as one would the dotcom bubble, puts into perspective that Tiger's superstardom had sticking power for the industry as a whole, without it, there is a threat it can come unglued.
"Incendiary" Battle or Capitalism at Work?
by sadhana
Reading this article, I couldn't help but think that this type of ego warfare typifies all kings guarding their kingdoms against zealous predators. First they come up with a definition for a predator and slap it on to anyone that would seem threatening. Google and Apple, both used to drooling adulation from fawning fans are certainly out to guard their turf, by hook or by crook, it would appear, going by media reports and blogging heads. It reveals that humans don't change very much no matter what sphere they operate in, business, politics, etc. the competition makes for strange bedfellows and they all adhere to Darwin's dictum, "survival of those best able to adapt to change." All we get to do is watch: Let the games begin.
Macaron Madness
by sadhana
Note how, although the article mentions several times that Macarons should not be confused with Macaroons, the article itself uses the latter spelling more than once in the article. That little faux pas not withstanding, this sweet treat, along with the dozens of others we venerate and consume on a daily basis are fast entering the consciousness of our taste buds. I ate them in Paris several years ago and am hoping to try a 'chain' store version of it here at home. I recall having enjoyed the macaron but will need to taste it again after all these years to be as transported as the rest of the treat's fans appear to be.
Perks and Quirks of Depression
by sadhana
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There are almost as many ailments as there are people. Reading Jonah Lehrer's article in the Times outlining the 'upsides' of depression, I wonder if these are all quirks and traits of personalities that manifest themselves in our behaviors and artistic endeavors just isn't part of the broader spectrum of living? It seems especially pronounced in the artistically inclined, just as athletes suffer physical injuries at a greater and more intense rate than the rest of us. Why is this remarkable? It would be remarkable if it were otherwise. I am amazed at the reams and reams of research that results in issuing truths we are already familiar with, or should be, if we are thinking individuals. It is so important to know ourselves our bodies and our responses to our environment; physical and mental so we can gauge how we are doing and modulate our activities through some measure of self-control and self-regulation. I don't mean at all to advocate mind body healing, far from it, I think all of that is as much packaged baloney as that packaged by antacid makers who will peddle what they make and convince you are sick enough to need their magic concoctions.
Recently, when my husband and I walked down from our home in the Oakland Hills to downtown Berkeley and met up with some friends there before walking back, I had an astonished relative ask me, "don't you have aches and pains?" Yes we do. I have aches and pains bodily and otherwise on a regular basis but I responded to her, "These aches and pains come and knock on your door, if you let them in and allow them to chat with you, they tend to linger and become annoying house guests before you know it. On the other hand, if you tell them you are in a hurry and keep doing what you are doing, they go away." That elicited a loud laugh from her and others. I realize not all problems can be brushed under the carpet, there are many ailments that cannot be fixed or resolved until a doctor or professional administers to them but for the most part, there are so many good days, bad days, indifferent days that result on how we feel on a particular day.
So many things swing our moods, expectations, joys, ebbs and flow of expectation, disappointment, the gamut of living produces a range of personality changes in us, some of them laced by innate, physical and mental imbalances, come and go. A teacher who had been teaching for over twenty five years in the Oakland School District once said to me, "sometimes, you have to ignore some of the kids who don't want to be part of the class, just let them be, they come around sooner or later, the minute you focus on them, you've lost the rest of the class and you've given them reason to justify their indifference and they'll go to any lengths to do it." I know this is a classroom setting and most teachers rely on this type of wisdom because it makes the broadest sense in a classroom setting but I've wondered often that if I'd been to the doctor each time I've felt an ailment (it literally takes wild horses to take me to a doctor), I've returned feeling embarrassed for having wasted the doctor's time, my own and the time taken away from other, more needy patients worthy of the doctor's time.
I visit the doctor once every five years or so and have skipped most major 'must do' checks, mammograms, pap smears, finally the doctor's offices do catch up with me and nail me to those tests and happily, they've all come out negative so far, fingers crossed firmly. I wonder how, in these past decade or so, if I'd gone to the doctor with a shooting pain in my knee that came and went randomly and a few other physical and sometimes mood related depression that came and went. I ignored them and didn't give them the time, insulting those pains and they left like rebuffed people, never to say hello again.
No redemption?
by sadhana
I read this story, at once heart warming and heart breaking. How can a sophisticated justice system like ours do this to its citizens? The persons suffering here are not just Qing Hong Wu, but his family, fiancee and the former judge, Michael Correiro who did what we hope judges will do if we are ever at the mercy of our judicial system. Correiro issued a contingent judgment to Qing Hong Wu, stating he would stand by the young boy, should he stay out of trouble and in school. Qing Hong kept his end of the bargain and became a citizen worthy of America's promise. What incentive does this episode give to judges, to decide more humanely, compelling cases such as these, what incentive does it give to young people like the young Qing Hong Wu who could be contemplating turning over a new leaf. How can we continue to pay for childhood excesses, well into adulthood? Does this mean that if Qing Hong Wu had been a US citizen at the time of his arrest, he would not be in this predicament now? The premise for his current situation smacks of inequities and is disturbing. If his mother had had time when her children were younger, they would have been granted citizenship under her passport, because that was what used to be the case.
Fallacies on Facebook
by sadhana
Teachers in America are among the worst paid and least appreciated professionals in the country. Ask parents of teenage children how hard they sometimes find parenting is and you can empathize with the challenges teachers face everyday. Some days they are are especially tasked with teaching rebellious teenagers on the cusp of adulthood, bringing to bear in the classroom all that they cannot get away with in their homes. The student, Katherine Evans' act, immature as it was, should have been denounced widely in the school. The fact that the principal called for her suspension only elevated her mindlessness and gave further room for broader bullying of teacher Sarah Phelps. Yes, some teachers may be more difficult than one would like but when one takes the role of educators in this country and pits them against the self-righteous students and parents, it seems plain wrong that a teacher has to feel powerless against the vagaries of Facebook. I grew up in India and a lot of students are told one particular story of how venerated a teacher's role in society is illustrated so: If God comes and stands besides your teacher, who will you first pay obeisance to? the correct answer is the teacher, because without him or her, you would not know the importance of God. Simple as this parable may seem, it forms a powerful backdrop to how striking the role of a teacher is in a student's life and how unacceptable it is to belittle that presence. However one may look at it, it's a sad day in the annals of teaching when teachers should start feeling cowed down by idiosyncracies of teenagers manifested in frustrated musings on public forums such as Facebook. Such acts will only neuter teachers' ability to teach and the biggest losers in all this will be parents and students who sometimes need an iron hand to guide them through distractions from academia.
It takes a writer...
by sadhana
.... To learn from the quirks of our world. Given we live so much by the theory of relativity, she points out with breathless eagerness how her trip to India engendered her understanding or rather pardon of America. A lot of our tragedies would remain mired in sadness if we are unable to see the silver linings touching ever so hesitantly, the distressful clouds; the Haiti tragedy, mammoth as it was/is, had small victories with people being recovered alive, a week after the horror struck. When my home was burgled recently with everything I cherished cleaned out, including a laptop that contained two manuscripts, a screenplay and a novel that I had not backed up; the thought that delivered me from deep gloom was that my girls weren't in the house at the time our home was invaded. I shudder to think what unconscionable people wouldn't stop at doing. Reading Ann Lamott's article in the LA Times had me nodding my head in agreement more than once thinking how comforting it is to get her point of view in these transformative times.
Minimalist Living
by sadhana
My husband and I are so eager to get rid of our homes, which of course, seem mammoth compared to Zach Motl's living space! Reading articles like these are only a further endorsement of the idea that 'making do' in life empowers and challenges our creativity. There is something about living on the cusp of not being poor that has a titallating attractiveness to it, which of course comes to light, when you are not on that precipice. The excitement of holding on for dear life is what keeps creative juices flowing. Although Zach Motl may not look at his life as if he were holding on for dear life. I have been there many a time and now wonder at the roominess staring at me mockingly sometimes, challenging me to get creative without the lure of pressing urgencies that propagated all my actions. I think back on the times when I had ample armor for writing but was embroiled deeply in day to day living, unaware of the bounty facing me.
Happily Ever After
by sadhana
The road to longevity of marriages is littered with compromises and adjustments, no question, just like there is no perfect job, there is no perfect marriage. While there are some eggregious instances of abuse or demonstrated lack of love that warrant a separation, for the most part, marriages, when viewed as arrangements that often involve two consenting adults, should be able to succeed and thrive over time. This article offers insights drawn from public and private personalities alike and showcases how there is not always a fifty-fifty reconciliation of partners on issues, often it is one person going 80% of the way. Whether this leads to creating selfish partners, is debatable but when we think of how finite our youth and our very living is, all abnormalities in relationships seem to become far less significant and important. A friend visited me recently, pouring her heart out about her rift with her sister, I couldn't fathom how anyone could not talk with their own sister and continue on the path of rancour in such a sustained manner, when she was leaving, I asked her to think of herself with her sister, two or three decades from now, how, she, who is now single, would give anything to have tea with her sister and talk about a show they'd just seen, I asked her how she would trade the possibility for that eventuality by allowing a disgruntlement to spin out of control. My friend looked at me and said, "I'd never looked at it that way, that far". The same seems to apply to all relationships, we don't seem to see that far often, but if we can, it helps preserve relationships and helps also dissipate some of the minor irritants which are so normal in every day life, whether in relationships or otherwise.
Abused
by sadhana
Customer abuse by service providers has become so common that companies have made it one of their larger revenue generating avenues. When I worked at two of the world's top four accounting firms, I was exhorted in sales meetings to, "find ways to keep the customer needing us, keeping that door always ajar, letting us in, that's what generates more billing hours for us." Looks like everyone else has taken a page out of that book, Comcast being no exception. In recent decades, with workers averaging eighteen months on each job, the threat of layoffs looming right from the date of hire, there is no sense of allegiance by employees to get fully trained and retain knowledge or expertise that their jobs require. We've all been stricken by Attention Deficit Disorder that we've inherited from working for superficial minded companies that have no intention of living up to the lofty codes of "customers first" etc. tag lines they like to boast on their letterheads. My point is that with a combination of poor corporate ethics, rolled out by big banks, insurance companies, accounting firms (think Enron/Arthur Andersen) etc.. we are really left to fend for ourselves. Devin Coldeway's article on Comcast, articulates in fine detail all the exquisite pain we went through installing cable in our home, our experience went one step further, Comcast workers disabled our security alarm in their ineptitude, didn't have the guts to tell us that, which followed in our home being robbed some months later.. Several of my friends are of the opinion that we should pursue this incident and uncover who may have been at the bottom of the grand theft that has left us feeling poorer, rattled and afraid of leaving our home and running errands. The tyrrany of the masses may end at some point, but only when consumer protection graduates up from being the low priority it has now in our governing officials' minds.
Weighty Problem
by sadhana
It seems it's not enough just to lose weight. It's now important to also gauge how much body fat one is losing in order to gain effective advantages from weight loss. Things were a lot simpler when we were told that people's excess weight didn't matter as long as they could account for a fit and active life. With newer technology parsing every pound we have by newer measures, we stand in danger of compounding what could be a problem that might have a simpler solution. I remember a doctor friend telling me many years ago, she was always overweight and happened to be a cardiologist, that yes, she could look at her patients in the eye and tell them that they could concentrate on losing weight if they wanted and make that their most important obsession, or, they could choose to be fit, while being fat and maintain an active lifestyle. She contended that the more people focused on their weight and analyzed the finer points of it ad nauseum, the less it was likely that they got off their contemplating chairs and out on the road to being fit. This article sheds light on all the nuances of how we should be measuring our weight.
Walking an Immune Path
by sadhana
Although this article affirms what we already know, it is good to have that idea reiterated with numbers, figures and statistics on the enhacement of our immune systems as a result of exercise about five days a week. I am often teased when I boast that I am now 'x' number of years old and have yet to get the common cold. I look back on a healthy life that has been cold, illness and sickness free and am grateful for a commonsense mom who forced us out of home to run and play, we were only allowed our reading time, back then, in India, we had no TVs and our pleasures largely comprised of reading. Also, my mother never gave us any medications for ailments we may have dreamed up on occasions we were trying to skip school because of a tiff with a friend, unfinished homework, etc. We were exhorted with "a hot shower will wake a dead man" and a smart slap in the back which sent us back to school again, our inhibitions evaporating as soon as we got to school, there was always so much to do! What I do recall is that all through my growing years, teens, twenties, thirties and now forties, I've walked, often because I needed to, but later because I loved to. My husband and I often thank the inner 'goats' we have in us; we love climbing the hills around our homes and we love food comprising of leafy vegetables! Nothing low fat, low calorie or processed, sits in our pantry or refrigerator leading us to believe that good health is habit forming.
Princess Grace in Two Worlds
by sadhana
Watching Grace Kelly's son address the musicians and audience at his palace in Monaco last summer, I tried to detect who he resembled most of his two famous parents, Prince Ranier or Princess Grace, I somehow saw more of his mother in him. Although this New Yorker story presents Grace Kelly's rise and rise in the entertainment world and then going on to garner the affections of some of the most attractive men in the world and marrying Prince Rainier, what struck me was the fortunate breaks she enjoyed in the impenetrable world of Hollywood. Despite her short career in film, she was immortalized by immortal film makers like Hitchcock and others who fashioned their stories around her elegance. Of course she was gorgeous and deserved all of her success but one wonders how crucial the element of luck is when we know there are so many who may have all those same ingredients and never make it in any 'significant' way in tinsel town.
Reserving the right to be Supremely Selfish
by sadhana
I've always been interested in Real Estate and its ups and downs, not the least because we own a few homes in the Bay Area and anxiously watch the moving indices.I read this article in the Journal wondering how similar my home search was to that of Ms. Pringle's but the similarity stops right there. I cannot believe she ended up buying a home with a realtor who showed her the home the first time, who probably got educated about her tastes from her home search history, aided by Ms. Emrich's efforts from Alain Pinel. How can Ms. Pringle ever find true happiness, despite how "perfect" her new home is, if she never bothered to include Ms. Emrich in the purchase of her "dream" home. Her lack of loyalty and superficial & mercenary approach is deplorable. Her new home is pretty, she did beat the sellers down from $9 million to $5.9 million. One wonders what she sold her home for and how much bargaining she allowed when selling. I have my fingers crossed that not all the people with that kind of money to spend are absolutely unconscionable people like her. This article to me is not a reflection of her tastes or tenacity, but more a reflection of a certain ruthlessness about the buyer.
Joblessness & Dysphoria
by sadhana
With the Obama Administration predicting that jobs will start surfacing again in the Spring, one cannot but pause and wonder at the ramifications of the recession's effects on thousands who've been undeservedly shoved into desparate situations. So many blogs suggest that foreclosure woes are justified because people assumed more debt than they could manage, while that generalization is also unfair, this new CBS/Times poll underscores the pathos of the whole situation more deeply. This article states that only 3 % of the respondents polled said they blamed Obama for their woes, which may be the correct gauge but one wonders how much further the goodwill can hold with the ongoing dithering of banks on extending or modifying loans to people to alleviate their trauma. Obama is definitely talking tough with them but he does have the power to impose more stringent guidelines on the banks and mandate that they follow them, that hasn't happened yet and people will soon see that Geithner's allegiance with Wall Street takes precedence over Obama's promises to the American people.
Body Shaping Shoes?
by sadhana
ShapeU Shoes are all set to become a fad, if the slick marketing being advocated by Reebok works effectively; chances are it will. We all want to be persuaded there is a quick and easy fix to fitness and shaping problems, all brilliant marketing is the ability to hone in on that innate urge. However, with all caveats included, buying a pair of these shoes and yes, eventually wearing them, come with cautionary messages traditionally used in pharmaceutical marketing; you can walk but not run in these shoes, 'all other activities, outside of walking in them' could be potentially dangerous? Why not just walk an extra quarter of a mile each day with your regular walking shoes at this rate? Here's an article that offers some thoughts on these shoes are actually not all that new, they've been around for five years or so it appears.
Growing into relationships
by sadhana
At some level, all relationships are works in progress it would seem. Even those that are well established and relatively "good" ones. In this self examining article that Elizabeth Weil writes about her relationship with her husband Daniel, she tackles some of the same questions a lot of duly happily married couples encounter. We can take the merits of this discussion and extend it to many relationships, boss/manager, co-workers, children and parents, growing with someone matures a relationship. Even cleaning help we use get better, the longer they work with us. You also get more adept at motherhood if you've been at it a while. As in most cases, relationships also teach us that practice makes us perfect.
Declaring Airbrushing on Pictures
by sadhana
It's about time some would say of what this article articulates. So many pictures in advertising and marketing these days are such untrue representations of their subjects that one would think it's in the interest of the models also that airbrushing posts be made mandatory on pictures. As technology advances, there is scope for so much transformation of pictures that some extreme retouches seem like a travesty. With the proposed guidelines by a mother of teenagers in France, who also happens to be a Member of Parliament in France, Valerie Boyer is on to something impressive seeking these guidelines. She thinks it will address many social ills ailing young women and men as they grow up and aspire to an "ideal" look. Making it mandatory for photographers to declare airbrushing of pictures seems to be one way to address the problem. The devil, like always, would be in the details. For Valerie Boyer's proposal to become successful it would perhaps necessitate the creation of a label, similar to what we get on most food items, declaring the 'level' of airbrushing technique adopted/applied to pictures. Interesting measures for invigorating times.
Making Desire Less Elusive in Women
by sadhana
Most women's focus and interest in sex often take a back seat in deference to other things they worry about. The worriers among women, regardless of their ages tend to relegate sex to a back burner almost on a routine basis some studies suggest. This in-depth article submitted to the Times by Daniel Bergner offers us a chance to review Lori Brotto's extensive work and research in this area. While the article seeks to include some contrarian views to offer an objective-minded analysis, it does justify the interest of women who find themselves feeling either curiosity or apathy for sex.
Parenting Paradox
by sadhana
In a comprehensive presentation on issues pertaining to fatherhood, Ruth Padawer, an adjunct professor at Columbia University’s Graduate School of Journalism, describes the excruciatingly complex nuances associated with parents who find themselves not to be biological parents of children they've raised, loved and believed to be their own. Like many others, I had imagined that DNA tests to prove parentage are conclusive and decided on issues pertaining to custody, child support payments, etc. This article offers a fascinating study of the multi-layered complexity underlying the debate in family courts across the country. Given there is no pat solution makes it that much more heart wrenching. A fascinating read nevertheless.
Sarah Palin's Stylist
by sadhana
This interview that Lauren Lipton posted in the Times with Sarah Palin's stylist in the frenzied months of the campaign, preceded by Palin's first public speech at the Republican National Convention, shows what a celebrity's stylist has to deal with perhaps on a regular basis. It is interesting to note that Lisa Kline, the stylist used the opportunity to showcase the stresses of her job and what working with celebrity figures entailed.
Enjoy your exercise
by sadhana
Reading this article reinforces what I've been saying all along. The intensity of exercise, accomplished with great pain and little pleasure does not do that much more to address weight loss issues as a lighter walk. Making physical workouts a routine is a good thing but what seems like an added bonus is to do it at a pace that is pleasurable and induces better results and relatively less pain. Hurrah to all our four, five hour walks in city streets, wildernesses, stair climbing, fruit picking, etc: The Joy of Walking.
Happy Days are here, now
by sadhana
That's the gist of what Todd May and many of the other writers in the Happy Days' series in the Times have said. The beginning of this year started in a pall of gloom for my family and I. A series of death related news traveled across the phone lines to my petrified and literally, shell shocked ears. Living oceans away from loved ones underscores tragedies with a bolder pen, making them at the same time less real when they happen and more drawn out in terms of the "coming to terms with a loved one's passing." My father-in-law died this year, someone I regarded as my own father, my young nephew died soon after in an incomprehensibly mindless tragedy, almost in a singular instance of drug overdose.. An uncle, who was the patriarch of our family for decades died and then.... As if all of these deaths needed a crowning glory; my uncle, who seemed like he would exist for all time, at least surely for as long as we would all be alive, just dropped out of the sky, without exaggeration; the helicopter he was traveling in with four others, hit a cliff in bad weather and smashed to pieces. As the unreality of his death still grips millions of others, including myself, I have mentally started to dissociate myself from all physical things, just the temporariness of our time here has been further reinforced. I was always an avid and impulsive shopper, never capable of passing up a bargain or a pretty something, I rarely go into shops these days, and even if I do, I look at potential buys for my daughters. Mentally, I've started to divest myself of things I need to get rid of before I go, so I don't leave an unholy mess in my wake. I know it's all morbid thinking and it may be that I am being reactive to the deaths of my dearly departed relatives, but I am not embittered or saddened, so much as realistic in my mind. I think that this is a happy time in my life, at age 47, to start to clean up, put things away, not have a need to amass any more knick knacks and keep the place generally clean. I sometimes wake up in the mornings wondering if I can leave the house a certain way and burden someone else with having to clean it up, should I make some kind of hasty exit. So many others have gone without much notice or warning, why not me? I don't, however, like some existentialists, question the value of brushing my teeth each night, or feel the weight of Sisyphus's stone quite as heavily, if at all. Life is a natural, organic progression into death. We make way, leave our bones or ashes behind to nourish another life form. What sometimes catches my breath is the fact that one day, millions of years from now, our species will likely cease to exist as the sun continues to grow and consume its system within itself. That to me is more worrisome than my own imminent or otherwise demise. What also has struck me, outside of this vaster agenda of the universe, is how others feel resuscitated with the death of one. My uncle, the Chief Minister of AP, who died so tragically, left many despairing enough to take their own lives, but there were equally as many who saw in his death an opportunity for rebirth for themselves. The same people who basked in his glory and presence and the programs he put in place to benefit the masses, are now, the quickest to point fingers at any succession issues arising with regards to his son. I read the papers every day, not with trepidation, as I had expected, but a feeling of wonder at their machinations. Do they really think they will live forever? How come such a terrible tragedy fails to impress upon them the temporariness of life? How long can we willfully sport those blinders that tell us the opposite of what is? That this is all so fleeting. I've always averred, it's easier to avoid conjecture & shennanigans, why do people choose the more complex path of duplicity over simplicity? They must think otherwise than I do, they must think their lives are infinite, as for me, I am perhaps more keenly aware of the finite and am eagerly making a pretty frame around its borders.
Bad Sodas and Good Teas
by sadhana
Hmmm, we knew this but we didn't know just how bad sodas can be and how good teas are for us! Although this is a short article, I wasn't aware that sodas contributed to weight gain around the belly for both men and women. Also, teas, green, oolong, etc.. my personal favorite is pomegranate or mango tea, all quite delicious and minus calories. They usually make a great dessert or savory snack accompaniment as well.
Carbon Emissions Watch-The New Calorie Watch?
by sadhana
We'll soon feel like Alice in Wonderland in the grocery store if we are to follow the example of the Swedes in labeling food. Sweden is perhaps the first country that hopes to change our food selections by identifying and labeling foods by the extent of damage or innocuousness they contain for the planet, which, they expect, will eventually boil down to what it means for our health. Swedes, as well as many Europeans are so connected with the process of keeping the earth greener and healthier that it is hardly surprising that they are pioneering this type of labeling.. The question however, what potential does such an effort have to transcend country and continent borders and catch on?
As Time Goes By
by sadhana
I've often wondered at the vagaries of Time and how we come out, say a decade, two decades later.. Although this attached link will not tell us exactly how we will turn out, it shows us how some other popular folks in film, television and sports ended up and what they are doing now. Of course a lot of them having been child stars, they are still technically in their "Wonder Years"..
Fantasy Holiday Gifts
by sadhana
Looks like the very wealthy will have to settle for "cheaper" presents this year. Neiman Marcus's new holiday catalogue features selections and gift recommendations far less expensive than in previous years.. introducing a whole new austerity measure for the holidays.. Check this article, it comes with pictures and price tags for the items.
Luxury in the name of the Mahatma
by sadhana
In a complete reversal of what the Mahatma meant to Indians and peace lovers across the world, Montblanc today unveiled an approximately $25,000 limited edition pen inspired by Gandhi. Their head of marketing for India, Middle East and Africa offered a quixotic justification for the production of the pen. Montblanc stated that "cheaper" versions of the pen would be available for the "common man" which would be priced at a much more accessible price point ranging from $3200 to $3600.. It is interesting to note that Tushar Gandhi, the Mahatma's grandson said that he's "too shy" to use such a pen.
Worry Warts are forever?
by sadhana
Some people tend toward the anxious. They tend to be the more tentative among us, the more prone to expect something to go wrong instead of right. Having always counted myself among the more anxious mothers, employees, etc. I read this article with interest and started to reflect on whether or not I fall under the category of the Anxious One... It's a good read for all of us to not only self-identify some of these traits but also possibly see them in our children, spouses, siblings, etc.
Beauty on the cheap
by sadhana
When even the rich get price conscious, it's time to look at how the rest of us who don't fall into that category will stretch our meagre dollars.. Here are some tips that can be useful, some of them I am not crazy about but some others I'd never heard of at all.
Charlottes' web..
by sadhana
The tensile nature of spider webs have long fascinated many who have studied the arachnids. This duo locating themselves in Madagascar go a step further to create a work of art that does not seem likely to branch into commercialized textiles any time soon but still worth stopping and looking at and wondering...It takes many Charlottes to build this web:-)
Men Happy.... Women Sad
by sadhana
The paradox that modernity has wrought upon women seems to have cornered them into the unhappy slot a lot more unforgivingly than their male counterparts. Women's biological makeup and the availability of choices to them seems to have made them a lot unhappier than the other way around. One wonders whether the whole women's emancipation movement was a steady march into a fog of puzzlement. I am not generally a fan of Maureen Dowd's writing style or persuasion but I felt this was an important enough subject to share with others.
Hot, hot, hot!
by sadhana
I am putting this under fitness because I think hot food helps us stay healthy. It's an entirely untested and unproved theory save for how I've used it on myself. I firmly believe that spicy food has curative and preventive powers. Having been raised South Indian, I guess I didn't have much choice in what type of foods shaped my taste buds, but I attribute the generous spicing and flavoring of my food for my fitness and being doctor free for the last 46 years that I've been alive. Here's something to get your eyes watering, forget your mouth.. the hottest chili!
Food Fights
by sadhana
It's becoming increasingly common now for food experts, nutritionists and every day parenting columnists and writers to talk about food intake freedom.. if it can be called that. Enforcing a regimen on children rarely has the desired effect. With food it's no different. While somehow most of us cannot recall childhoods that had any memory or understanding of the word "calorie", we grew up on 'whole milk, all butter, all sugar, all spiced, finish the food in your plate" rules. Now, in our mid forties, my siblings and I are all remarkably fit and have rarely veered from a five pound range in our weights since our teenage years, and the time in between included the process of us becoming parents and the issues of weight gain there. My firm belief is that children be allowed to enjoy food, that's when they don't abuse it. It's like those who abuse alcohol, hoarding or eating surreptitiously, food addiction runs along the lines of any other addiction it seems. If our palates are satisfied with good tastes, we rarely seek an over supply of the "supposedly low-fat, low-carb stuff" that would keep us fitter. What keeps you fit is how satisfying your meal is, so you can move on to the next thing you need to do rather than the next food item you might try because this one was so unsatisfying. This is one more article that talks about the lack of effectiveness of food regimens.
Healthiest Foods on Earth
by sadhana
We've always contended that we shouldn't eat what our grandma wouldn't recognize. In our house we drink whole milk, eggs with yolks, real butter, real sugar, there is no substitute anywhere in our pantry for the real thing. I am 5'4" and weigh around 96 pounds.. this has been my constant weight range, 92-97 pounds since I was a teenager (and those of you who know me know that that was in the dark ages)! Anyway, here's an article from a credentialed nutritionist that pretty much echoes what we think we already know but what many may be surprised by.
Lovely to see Susan Boyle back... in Harper's Bazaar!
by sadhana
After grueling media attention, Boyle's back for me, equipped in fine style this time! Wishing her great luck and hoping to hear her songs again soon!
The ordeal of being a hermaphrodite
by sadhana
While most of us grapple with gender issues and some make millions of dollars talking of men being from Mars and women from Venus, it is unfathomably sad to think of belonging to neither category. What can be even worse perhaps is to have others suspect that you are of one sex when you've been raised all your life to know you are another. The saga of Semenya's win and subsequent scrutiny at the world championships this week is not just tragic for her, the manner in which she is being investigated, so publicly, so callously lacking in sensitivity for her feelings somehow demeans us all.
Death with dignity
by sadhana
Losing loved ones, being told we are losing some vital function of our bodies is a terrible reality we contend with as part of the saga of living. Helping patients die with dignity is a worthy if terribly hard attempt. This well written article attempts to show the various angles to administering the last rites, as it were, to patients on the brink of dying.
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